so i have the fender removed and a new painted to match fender ordered. for anyone who wants to do this here is how i did it
1 remove wheel well lining. tire might be in the way but i was able to work around it
2 remove the nut and bolt securing the front bumper ends to fender
3 pull bumper end toward wheel well to unlock from pin hole
4 the fender is held in place with T30 torx bolts (stupidest idea) i had to cut the bolt sides parallel and used an adjustable wrench to remove ( 2 on bottom, 2 on front bracket, one in door jamb, 5 in engine bay, one nut and bolt holding bumper end to fender
5 pull doorside of fender out and slide back.
i didnt have to remove front bumper or the headlight once i get new hardware (actual bolts, what they should have done) and fender in mail hopefully it will go back in the same way